In the situation I describe in „How to deal with shitty people, pt. I“, I didn’t regret saying no to a certain annoying person, but I also didn’t know how to deal with my anger, especially because I can’t avoid her and I’m afraid I’ll make my life miserable by getting infuriated every time I see her. (When I am angry at someone, this can go on for days, months, even years, making my life miserable and poisoning me – not a good way to live.)
This was the kick in the butt I needed to finally get me into seriously using my imagination to improve my situation. Releasing emotional blocks with the Emotion Code and learning to surrender my worries has been very powerful for me, but not enough in a) situations where I stayed angry at someone for a long time, and b) in situations that I wanted to escape but could not see a way out of.
Years ago I read about a thing called „Pray Rain Journal“ in this article by author and life coach Martha Beck. It’s simply a little notebook you use to write a page or so every day, pretending that you are already living, having and experiencing what you desire, even though you cannot imagine how you are supposed to get there. You really have to try and imagine it with all your senses and feel the way you would feel, and then write a short journal entry from that perspective.
How do I use the Pray Rain Journal to deal with shitty people?
Instead of just wishing for annoying people and situations to go away, you paint a picture of what you REALLY want, which is more and probably very different from just having the opposite of what you hate. In my Pray Rain Journal, I don’t write about how a certain annoying person is suddenly not so annoying anymore, but I rather feel for what I really desire, which is to live in peace, freedom and safety, and imagine what that would feel like.
Of course, once I started my journal, I used it for many other areas of my life, as well. It doesn’t take long, but it leaves me feeling different, empowered, and with a sense that everything is alright and a certainty that my wishes will come true. When I feel like what I write is too good to be true, I work on the feelings and beliefs that caused this resistance.
Do this every day. I will, too, and let you know how it goes. While I may make a fool of myself in case it doesn’t work, I really have nothing to lose, and neither do you. Read some convincing success stories here to get you inspired. Happy pray-raining!